My post reflects on a recent time when my husband and I were walking into church. Just outside of the building, a young man with tattered clothing and dirt on his face walked quickly up to us. We looked up and listened to a short sermon:
“Do you have any money to spare?”
Both of us, “I’m sorry, we don’t.”
“Nah, man. Well you all go into church then. I hope you have Jesus in you! He’s watching!” Then he ran off.
I quickly became shocked and disappointed. Shocked because I don’t typically enjoy people talking back to me. Disappointed because I felt like he basically didn’t want to be our friend. When we rejected him due to a lack of money, he left us. Do you have “friends” whom ask you for something, and just because you don’t, just cut off your friendship? Now, friendship from just meeting a person may be kind of extreme, but that’s the perspective that I pictured in my mind.
Let me explain my past history now. I used to give loads of money to homeless families and people. By loads, I mean whatever a teenager with part-time money could afford. Even though it felt good at the time to give away some of my money, that feeling was temporary. I always kept wondering, maybe I should’ve pointed them over to a person who knows how-to build a resume for them so they can continue to have money instead of running out today…
Due to multiple scams at gas stations asking for a very specific amount of money and people just being rude to me if I didn’t have enough to give them and all I had was change, I stopped handing people money. Even more so, I developed a habit to only give to named charities after doing much research.
Take it from success expert and business coach, Dani Johnson. She was a homeless, young girl who lived in her car. She had $2 to her name and not much to look forward to every day. She put her heart and soul into a dream and became her own CEO within a few months, making mucho moolah. In one of her books, she says she does not feel “sorry” for the homeless because she too was in that position and she was able to surpass that time in her life and replace it with something much bigger than what she had initially thought for herself.
Now, we are not talking about those who are disabled or not able to work; we are talking about the people who CAN work and choose not to. The only difference between those who are successful and those who think they can’t get there is their drive.
I grew up in a family whom worked so hard to get us to where we are because their motivation was our happiness. Their drive took us to part-time jobs, to college, to renting our own apartment.
My best friend made a good point after telling her the story. “At least they’re not in the red. I mean, I’m struggling paying off student loan debt, that makes me at negative thousands of dollars. At least they get to start off at 0 and have a clean slate! They are off to a better start than where I am right now!” True for those who don’t have any other kinds of debts.
How do you start your journey to a wealthy lifestyle when you have little to nothing?
- Build a basic budget and tell where you want your money to go
- Read self-development books from libraries or borrow them from a friend
- Get a part-time job that doesn’t require experience
I look back at the bitter, young man that day. If only he knew I was working on my own personal financial journey to become wealthy. I don’t take the signs people are holding now-a-days lightly: “Who am I kidding? I don’t need money. I need beer.” Uh, that doesn’t tell me you are serious about your future. To that young man out there, money is an earthly thing, and I wish to give him drive so that he can be inspired to have desire for his own life to be abundant here on earth so that he can receive citizenship in Heaven. (Philippians 3:19-20)